There’s no one-size-fits-all for the first 90 days back home.
With that in mind, let’s look at ways to strengthen your recovery during the few months back home from rehab or a sober living home.
Here are some basics to consider as you’re on your way home from treatment of any kind:
- It’s Your Own Unique Recovery Process
Your recovery isn’t going to look like anyone else’s, and that’s okay. You don’t have to pretend to be a recovery Superman or Superwoman.
- Avoid Stress
Stress is the enemy of recovery. Over time, we learn strategies to manage stress without using drugs problematically, but in the beginning, minimizing stress is best.
- Formulate a Plan
Your routine doesn’t have to look like everyone else’s, but routines themselves are extremely helpful in recovery.
- Be Honest
Communicating your needs clearly, directly and respectfully with friends, family and co-workers will help you get through a time that can be tough.
- Stay the Course
The first 90 days don’t have to be hard. Make no mistake, they will have their rough patches, but don’t be scared! This new life can be a lot of fun, especially as you learn to respect yourself and your needs without self-medicating.
Take the Time to Find Yourself
This time – early recovery – is your time. It’s your time to own it – to be yourself. If you’re going to be successful – and take it from me, because I almost didn’t – you’ve got to find out what matters to you. You’ve got to find out who you are.
Do you paint? Do you sketch? Get out those pencils and sketch! Do you write music? Start to sing and do it like your life depends on it. Because guess what? It does. You have to do you.
Keep in mind that, during this time, the losses you’ve felt will feel stronger. I found myself crying for days over people I’d lost – people I’d barely even known. This is a hard time, but it can also be liberating because, perhaps for the first time, you’re focusing on yourself.
Your very life depends on figuring out who you are. You’ve hit this point for a reason. Somehow, you have to find the courage to hold up your hand and say “no” to those who say you’re “just a bad person,” “just an addict,” or “just an alcoholic.”
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